Dr. David Steinbok, quoted in REDBOOK.
“When anxiety bumps up against insecurity, miscommunications can occur,” says David Steinbok, Psy.D., a relationship therapist in Boca Raton, FL. Sure, you’re worried about finances during tough times, but when you say something about money being tight, your guy hears that he’s not being a good provider. In this case, your budget concerns trigger your husband’s nagging self-doubt, making it impossible for him to focus on ways to fix the problem at hand.